When Love Dies !

In the normal course of events, the average person has a number of relationships before they take the plunge and settle on what they hope will be a permanent partnership.  Even when that is celebrated with a marriage ceremony in a church that is no guarantee that it will be harmonious - or lasting.

Breaking up is always emotional and sometimes one of the partners refuses to accept reality.  That can lead to stalking and sometimes violent confrontations.  It falls under the category of " domestic violence " and it is something the police encounter all too often.

There really is no cure for irrationality. Rejection sometimes erases the thin line between love and hate and this manifested itself in tragedy.  Such was the case when two people with high earning power and the maturity of years met violent deaths in Sydney.

Both of them were qualified dentists with the honorific title of " Doctor  " and they were aged in their mid thirties.  They had what was described as an " on-off " relationship for many years until he moved his practice to Tamworth and she remained in Sydney.

As professional dentists a dental conference was an event of some importance but it had the danger of bringing them into contact with one another, and that was something she wished to avoid.  Her failure to return home raised alarm and resulted in a police alert which ended when her car was found abandoned in a Sydney street.  A suitcase in the boot contained her body and death was caused by multiple stabbings.

The other part of this failed relationship met his death deliberately on Monday night when he swerved his BMW into the path of a semi trailer on a state highway.  Two highly skilled professional people are dead and their deaths will be investigated by the coroner.

Fortunately, most relationship endings occur with tears and perhaps anger, but  quickly gain acceptance.  It is usually emotional insecurity that causes one party to refuse to accept that severance is permanent and take active steps to renew the bond.  That can lead to confrontation which is difficult to bring under control by both the courts and the police.

In some cases, the danger perceived is so extreme that the victim moves interstate - or even overseas - but even that will not completely eliminate the risk.   The urge to force the relationship to continue can be so powerful that all obstacles are overcome.  The only hope is for the victim to disappear and create a new identity and that usually requires the connivance of numerous government agencies.

The problem is in determining which cases constitute extreme danger.  In many cases the intensity is short lived and the separation is then accepted, but there are instances where help from the state is of critical importance.  How that can be achieved is yet to be determined.